The world in which young men live. It is both a stage of life, a liminal undefined time span between adolescence and adulthood that canoften stretch for a decade or more. It’s a bunch of places where guys gather to be guys with each other, unhassled by the demands of parents, girlfriends, jobs, kids, and the other nuisances of adult life. In this tipsy turvy, Peter-Pan mindset, young men shirk the responsibilities of adulthood and remain fixated on the trappings of boyhood, while the boys they still are struggle heroically to provethwart they are real men despite all the evidence to the contrary.
Michael Kimmel, Guyland: The perilous world where boys become men (New York: HarperCollins, 2008), 4
This is a wake up call for guys. You don’t want to wake up one day in your forties or fifties and realize – oh my word – I am still stuck in the mindset of an adolescence. Unfortunately, too many guys are waking up to that brutal reality.
Guys, it’s time to begin seriously thinking about growing up. The days of being rebels are over, the days of experimenting with risky chooses are gone. The days of playing games all day and all night, looking at porn, dropping out of school, working jobs that don’t really pay the bills, moving back home with mom and dad, or putting off marriage just to settle for hooking up and living witthThe girlfriend – those days should be gone for you – for I fear that you will soon wake up to a double crises – a stuck in adolescence crises and a midlife crises.